Emotional intelligence in our children is such a vital life skill. During teacher training I have seen first hand the stresses and pressures that are indirectly put onto primary school children through the increasingly demanding curriculum and higher expectations. Having the strength and resilience to be able to understand and communicate how you are feeling during tough times are crucial. These important skills can be neglected leaving children unable to get the most out of a fulfilling life.
Friendships are crucial to our happiness and having the support (and ear) of a good friend is something we all need during our lives. The ability to make good friends and be a good friend is also a skill and one that needs nurturing.
I am lucky enough to have some brilliant friends – some I see on a daily or weekly basis and others that I don’t see from one year to the next! We still always pick up just where we left off and know that when times are challenging we will be there for each other. Even just a quick “hello” text from a favourite friend can make your day!
Friendships stem from a common interest; being at the same school, part of the same club or community, first time parents or having children the same age. Some friendships last a lifetime and other just short periods of time.
One of my lovely blogger friends Becky, who is also a qualified psychotherapist, has launched a brilliant resource for children to encourage healthy friendships.
Fink cards can be used at home, at school and in youth groups. The questions can be easily modified to suit all age groups and are in four colour coded categories
- Thinking about friendships you have right now
- How to make friends
- How to be a good friend
- How to manage friendships difficulties
I think they give an amazing opportunity to open up dialogue and get children to talk about their feelings and relationships openly and honestly. You can preorder your own set now at just £13.50 (normally £14.99).
Seeing these cards really got me thinking about this subject and in our busy lives how easy it is to not take chances to talk to our children about how important these issues are. Friendships in school can be strong, they can also be fickle and cause lots of issues. I would hate to think my children were struggling to communicate how they were feeling about friendships that weren’t working well.
There is a massive focus in schools on safeguarding our children from dangers but do you think that enough focus is being placed on children’s emotional intelligence?
What do you think to using Fink cards as a tool to get the conversation going?